Be Merciful
“Love your enemies…. Do good to those who hate you.” Not until Jesus came had anyone ever said to pray for those who abuse us and to do good to those who hate us. This is a specifically Christian application. Jesus practiced it Himself. He died praying for His enemies. What does it mean?
The history of the Church is replete with people who have taken Jesus seriously on this point.
St. Maria Goretti forgave her assailant who stabbed her fourteen times. This forgiveness changed his life. He had a vision of her in prison giving him flowers. The first thing he did after many years of imprisonment, was to see Maria’s mother. She forgave him, too. He was present at Maria’s beatification. (We have a relic of St. Maria in our main altar.)
Titus Brandsma was a Dutch Carmelite priest who was tortured and put to death by the Nazis because he spoke out against the persecution of the Jews. He reached out to the nurse who was helping to torture him by giving her his rosary. Apparently, she started using it and had some kind of conversion because she provided testimony for his beatification in 1985.
And Pope John Paul forgave his own would –be murderer by meeting with him, in the jail where his would-be assassin was imprisoned. I recall the famous photograph of the two, facing each other, in the jail cell.
Most of us have not endured such hostility or abuse. But, with this in mind, Jesus includes comparatively minor offenses by using the image of being slapped. How do we handle slights or insults (real or perceived)? Even here, we need to forgive. Otherwise, we may carry the injury to the grave. Living with bitterness or resentment is no way to live. (Jesus said that He came that we might have life; He meant not only heaven, but a life here, free of bitterness, worry, anxiety, etc.)
One priest has this testimony: When first ordained, he believed that 50% of all health, marital, family, and financial problems were due to unforgiveness. After ten years he revised his estimate to 75 to 80%. After 20 years, he believes that over 90% of these problems have some connection with unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. Unforgiveness is an impediment to living the life of freedom that the Lord wants us to live. Unforgiveness is a form of enslavement. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.
What to do? Lead a spiritual life. Pray the Lord’s Prayer regularly. Go to confession regularly. Stay close to the Lord.